Baby Labor Tool Kit for Dad

Labor Tool Kit for Dads

As the birthing partner, you’ll be responsible for putting together what you’ll need in the delivery room for comfort. Even though the mom-to-be is the center of attention, you’ll need some things for yourself as well.

Labor takes a long time, normally anywhere from 12 to 18 hours, perhaps longer. Most of the time labor takes place at night, so it is imperative, dad, for you to be comfortable. With that in mind it is recommended that you have a bag ready to go not only for her, but for you as well, when she announces it is time.

The good labor tool kit contains many items. Here are a few we would suggest:

An extra shirt and/or change of clothes for yourself. You could be there awhile, so your comfort counts too!

A bathing suit in case you want to join your partner in the bath or shower. Believe me, the sight of a naked man while in labor isn’t the most welcome vision despite what you guys might think!

Have some snacks for yourself handy. Like we’ve said, you could be there awhile and even if McDonald’s is “just down the road”, she might not appreciate you jaunting out for a Big Mac. Especially when all she can most likely have is ice chips or popsicles!

A tennis ball is essential for back labor

A portable CD or cassette player to “set the mood” in the room

Candles for soft lighting. Be sure to check with the hospital to see if this is allowed

Things to do for both you and the mother. Cards, board games, word searches, crosswords and such can provide a much needed distraction during early stages of labor.

If the doctor will allow it, bring lollipops for her to suck on when she gets hungry.

A list of phone numbers for the people you’ll want to call once the blessed event occurs. We have one note about calling people after the blessed event.

As a general rule men want to know two things, what the sex of the baby is and is mom doing well. The details are unimportant.

Women, however, require details. Having a baby is a defining event in a woman’s life; it is also a benchmark by which women compare themselves to one another. Therefore, you have to provide certain extra information to women. Understand that what you provide is not nearly enough, but coming from a man it will be more than they expected and will be appreciated; they will also brag on you to your wife.

Scented oils and lotions can help soothe the nervous mother while you’re rubbing the areas she needs massaged.

DON’T FORGET THE CAMERA! Most hospitals don’t allow video cameras in the birthing room anymore, but they encourage picture taking – especially after the baby arrives. If you’re bringing a digital camera, don’t forget plenty of batteries!

Change for the vending machines. In case your snacks give out!

What happens if the comfort measures don’t work and Mom needs some medication? Most likely, it’s a epidural. Let’s define some non-natural pain relief.

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Like It or Not Kids Grow with Violence

Kids Grow with Violence

Like most of the parents, you are probably against guns. Real guns. At the mere sight of them, your knees turn to jelly. A gunless society is ideal but only law-abiding citizens can make it one. If guns are in the hands of goons, who will protect the gunless citizens? Nowadays, it’s hard to tell who are the law enforcers and the law-breakers.

You must be able to enforce “toys for peace” in your home. You should be conscious about this, as your boys and girls graduate from plastic toys that go “bang bang” to water guns. What are popular now are air soft guns using plastic pellets. They are quite expensive.

This is probably one step ahead of video or role-playing games, where one uses the computer or imagination. In war games, they can act it out. You probably don’t notice it but when your kids start playing war games, their relationship skills improve. They become a team with a hobby to share. It’s good, clean fun. Nobody gets hurt. They wear protective goggles or face masks, long sleeves and long pants. (It seems there are some adults who join, not to play, but to hurt.)

The children’s justifications should never change your stand about toy guns. They know they can never ask you to buy such guns for them. (So they’d probably try asking their other parent.) Besides, you reaction is always economic: “How much? That’s a month’s groceries! No way!”

But when violence is deliberate, such as in hazing, then that’s a different story. This is no longer a game. The pain is real. It is not like those “blood pellets” you can wipe away when the game is over. You can actually have blood on your hands.

Hazing does not teach brotherhood. It teaches revenge. So this batch was made to take a gulp of milk, spit it out, and pass the same glass down the line. From a half-filled glass, by the time it gets to the last guy, it’s nearly full. Next year, this same batch will do the same, or worse, to their neophytes. And so the violence escalates.

Is this a rite of passage every boy must undergo to be a man, or a girl to be a woman? A father, especially one who got by without joining any fraternity, is proof enough that fraternities are not necessary. If by brotherhood, it means cheating by test paper leaks and connections, then you shouldn’t want that for your children.

They say the culture of violence is bred by violence in comics, movies and television. That enough exposure to violence can dull one’s sense and one can become insensitive to gore and blood. Power can be such a heady experience. Guns or even a car can give one a feeling of power. You’ve seen houseboys transformed into veritable kings of the road, once they get behind the steering wheel. Can you imagine those out of school youth recruited to be security guards and issued guns?

What can we do about this culture of violence? Parents ask the schools to be stricter with those involved in frat violence. For students, the best thing is to boycott fraternities. Those who join are mostly insecure students from the province who really need some form of brotherhood, as they are new in the city or university. They do not know that one can pass the course and find jobs based on one’s merits.

Fratmen are popular with girls. Well, girls, frat membership does not make a man – especially when the measure is whether one can stand a beating and be able to beat up others in turn. Fraternities will eventually die if there will be no new recruits.

Aside from limiting your children’s exposure to violence in mass media, you have to teach them how to handle power. With power come greater responsibilities. Being a true leader means humility and service, not giving orders to slaves. Moreover, fellowship can be achieved without undergoing or inflicting pain.

You can’t completely protect your children from violence since it exists in their environment. The most you could do is to arm your children with values so that, in time, when they encounter violence, they will know what to do and hopefully make the right decision.

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Attracting Women Online Dating for Senior Citizens

Senior Citizens can Attract Women with Online Dating

Dating is not easy for everyone. To some it could an exciting and fun activity that allows them to meet other people, and maybe even
their potential life partner! But for others, this ritual can feel like a slow and painful torture, leading to an execution; especially for
those men who do not have much luck when it comes to attracting women.

But there are ways you can attract women and realize that they might be interested. It doesn’t have to be as difficult as you think it
might be.

When in person, read body language. Chances are, she’s putting out signals that she’s really interested. Some tell-tale signs of interest include:

Biting her lips
Twirling her hair
Gazing at you
Touching her face
Laughing and touching you

Whether online or in person, be approachable and open to conversation. Be friendly and ask questions. Smile a lot when in person.

Convey that smile when online. You can actually do this through positive comments and talk about yourself and the person you are
chatting with.

When face to face, it’s important to be clean and presentable. Women are not going to go for guys who have poor grooming habits. When going out, men should always wear clean clothes, comb their hair, and never douse themselves with after shave. A little is okay, but a lot can be too much to take, and may send the women scurrying away in the other direction!

When you’re over 50, you may notice the presence of an abnormal amount of ear or nose hair. Keep these areas trimmed and clean. It’s a real turn-off to see these errant hairs sticking out when trying to keep up an interesting conversation.

Make eye contact, too. There’s nothing more attractive and sexy than having someone look directly into their eyes while they are
talking with them. They say the eyes are the window to the soul. There’s no better way to connect with a woman than to give her a
glimpse into your own soul.

Finally, have something clever to say. Women love men with a great personality and this can be conveyed through what you say.
If the woman you’re talking with has a love of literature, quote something from a well-known book. If she loves the theater, refer to the amazing symbolism in her favorite play. You’ll not only win her heart, but her respect as well.

And no matter what people may tell you – chivalry is not dead and women DO appreciate it. This is especially true for seniors.

Senior women remember the day when a man opened the door for a woman and let her enter a room first. Pull her chair out for her at a restaurant and help her put on her coat. While feminism is still alive and well, all women love to be pampered and remembering these tried and true techniques will impress her – trust me!

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